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If you mess up, fess up! That’s just one of the secrets to creating a happy future. Tamra Mercieca looks at how to get back in the driver’s seat of your life.
There is something that great leaders, respected mentors and those people who always seem to be happy have in common, and that’s something called personal responsibility. People who accept responsibility, embrace it even, are inevitably those who are admired, who are independent and who ultimately persevere.
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It is these people who can admit when they’ve made a mistake, apologise when it’s necessary, and above all else, take the blame for how their life is, for good and for bad. Acknowledging that your life if your responsibility opens up your potential to achieve your wildest dreams.
Admittedly, the prospect of taking responsibility can be scary. After all, who wants to be held accountable if things go awry? But playing the blame game doesn’t solve anything. It serves as a deflective shield to protect the individual who does not want to face their issues.
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Reclaiming your power is all about making a commitment to yourself, and wanting to change is the crucial first step. Start by taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and behaviour. Next, work out what you want to be different and how you can achieve this.
Consider the cause verses effect equation. There are two places we can live our life from. If you’re on the Cause side of the equation, you create all the results and outcomes in your life – you’re taking responsibility. If you’re on the Effect side, which is most common in today’s society, you are saying that everything that happens to you was the result of what someone else said or did. This is where you’ll have a lot of reasons and excuses for why you didn’t get the results you wanted.
People who take complete responsibility for their lives experience much more happiness. They’re able to make choices because they understand that they are responsible for their choices. Even when events that are not under their control, go awry, they can at least determine how they will react to the event. You can make an event a disaster or you can use it as an opportunity to learn and grow.
Just as Albert Einstein said: “Man must cease attributing his problems to his environment, and learn again to exercise his will – his personal responsibility.”